How to Find Love 

A practical guide to making wiser, more informed choices in love.



Finding and choosing a partner is one of the most consequential decisions we will ever make. This guide explains everything from why we have ‘types’ and how our early lives inform our romantic decisions as adults. It sheds light on harmful and repetitive patterns and provides insight on how to break them.

Drawing on in-depth analysis, How to Find Love explains our instinct for romantic self-sabotage and provides a crucial set of ideas to help us make safer, more imaginative and more effective choices in love.

• A GUIDE TO MAKING BETTER DECISIONS IN LOVE:  and how to choose the ‘right’ partner.


• PRESENTS THE TOOLS WE NEED:  to break unhealthy relationship habits.


• PART OF THE SCHOOL OF LIFE’S GIFTABLE ESSAYS SERIES:  other titles include Why You Will Marry the Wrong Person,  Why We Hate Cheap Things, and Self-Knowledge.


• DRAWS FROM THE SCHOOL OF LIFE’S CORE CURRICULUM

Tabla de materias

i. Introduction: From Reason to Instinct
ii. Why We Fall in Love with Particular People
iii. Our Problems with the People We Are Attracted to
iv. Improving Our Problematic Instincts
v. Obstacles to Finding Love
vi. Conclusion: Realism

Sobre el autor

Alain de Botton was born in Zurich, Switzerland in 1969 and now lives in London. He is a writer of essayistic books that have been described as a ‘philosophy of everyday life.’ He’s written on love, travel, architecture and literature. His books have been bestsellers in 30 countries. The School of Life is coming to the US in 2018. The San Francisco Conference will take place from the 23rd to 25th of March, and the New York Conference will be in the fall – exact dates to be confirmed.